This past week has been one of heartbreak. A little over a week ago, my husband contacted me, letting me know that his Aunt Mable passed away. Kennedi had my phone when the message came through, and she just cried in my arms – her response to a broken heart. Kassadi had a similar reaction when I told her later that night. There was nothing I could do but hold her as well. As I thought about all my relatives who loved Aunt Mable dearly, I knew each of us would be experiencing our own level of heartbreak.
2 days later, I received news that the teacher I blogged about last week had passed away. Heartbreak was now being experienced by an entire community. And more tears in my home.
A broken heart can be a result of any type of loss – loss of loved one, loss of a relationship or marriage, financial loss, loss of a dream for yourself (unfulfilled career aspirations or personal desires) or child (making bad choices that negatively affect their future).
I imagine the pain is caused by our emotional “heart” being split (broken) open by whatever devastating news we receive or realize. And sometimes this pain can seemingly be unbearable – causing an intangible, but heavy burden that can physically weigh us down, and also lead to our isolation, depression, and feelings of hopelessness.
Everyone responds differently to the pain they are personally experiencing. I had already been dealing with one type of heartbreak, and the losses we experienced last week only piled on more grief. My burdened weight was getting heavier, to the point that I had to drag myself out of bed each morning. The days were long and tough, tears were random, and nothing much around me mattered. It was hard to encourage those within my close circle, when I could barely encourage myself.
But then I thought about today’s Play Prediction from God’s Word. Our loving Father in heaven promises to heal the trauma from our broken heart and bind up the resulting wound.
I had the privilege to give words of encouragement at the graveside ceremony for a close friend’s mother several weeks ago – I shared this scripture with the grieving loved ones, likening it to a mother who bandages up her young child.
I thought back to when my girls would get hurt when they were younger. I would clean the injury (which we lovingly called boo-boos), to ensure it didn’t get infected, and then put Neosporin on, cover with a Band-Aid, and finish with a kiss over the wound. Then I would regularly check the wound in the days following, to ensure it was healing properly.
In that same manner, I interpret this scripture as our loving Father making sure our emotional wounds do not infect us, as He carefully bandages us to ensure proper healing.
I told my daughter that the pain in her heart would heal a little bit each day, but that the healing might be so small, that some days it doesn’t feel any different. But then one day she’d notice it didn’t hurt as much. And eventually the pain would be less and less. It may never completely go away, just as our physical injuries sometimes leave scars. But there WOULD be healing.
My pain is still there. But it doesn’t hurt as much as it did last week – at least my mornings aren’t as tough. And I know next week will be a bit better than today.
To anyone experiencing the loss of a loved one, or any type of heartbreak – hold on and keep moving forward! Wake up each day and do what you can. Know that God can and will properly and intentionally heal your heart if you allow Him to. It won’t be overnight, but the wound will heal little by little. Just keep going forward, one small step at a time …
Are you currently dealing with a heartbreaking situation? How are you handling the pain? Are you moving forward through the pain? Numbing it in unhealthy ways? Or maybe you’re stuck and not able to move forward?
Can you release the pain you’re experiencing to God, trusting that He will work to bandage up and heal your wound(s)? Are you willing to wait out the healing process?